All Sex Listings from the week are online, even those that came in as late as 2 pm PST today. This one caught my eye for purely personal reasons, which is that I've had a craving for muscle bear lately:

Florida Orlando: Hanks Bar, 5026 Edgewater. Cruise bar with dark room. This update added January, 2009: "This place rocks. There’s a small bar area with a large outdoor patio. Within minutes of getting there I had a big bear cock in my mouth. Sucked on about five dicks in the span of a few hours. No fuss, out in the open, but hot!"

Then there's this:

Arizona Phoenix: Royal Villa II Motel , 4312 N. 12th Street. Motel with bathhouse-type action. This update added January, 2009: "I should have read these posts first. The place was sad. There was a guy with a really nasty attitude at the desk. I took my money back and went up the road to the other gay motel."

Of course what you like someone else may not but the Sex Listings can usually help someone avoid a total disaster and waste of time and money. Sheesh. The money. Baths and clubs and places like this motel are not inexpensive. Even if you don't have the best time if you at least read up before going somewhere it takes some of the sting out of wasted cash. And do the next guy a favor and comment on your experience.

Example #579,468 on why we editing the Sex Listings:

guard chris after 11 pm suckscock drives a gold suv

Bitter ex posting that? Or maybe just someone who doesn't stop to think it's not their place to share someone's name, occupation, type and color of car, and the time he can be found at a certain public place sucking cock? If "Chris" himself wants to post a full-body-including-face nude pic superimposed on his credit report that's his business. But this is not cool and I promise we won't let this happen to you on CFS.

I'm always amused at the stones cast when it comes to sex:

New York New York City: College Point Video, 36-05 College Point Blvd., Flushing, Queens. Bookstore with arcade. This update added January, 2009: "I was there in December and as others have said, there was a sickly youngish type guy getting fucked bareback and sucking every cock that came through the gloryholes. This guy was fucked at least three times bareback and sucked as many others in the forty-five minutes I was there. Still, it was crowded (midday) and a few were in uniform. I got my mouth around a hot Italian guy with a meaty dick wearing a wedding ring and a UPS type uniform. Hot."

Or, shorter: "I'm only going to take this married man's dick out of my mouth long enough to be a moral scold."

As always, I'm not saying advocating safe sex is something bad or inherently intrusive upon someone's right to make their own choices about sexual practices. But being an advocate often works best when you're being more than a scold, especially one lacking any sense of irony. I mean, I'm guessing the wives of these men are just as disapproving that this dude is sucking their husbands' dicks as he is at someone taking it bareback. And I do happen to think if you want to advocate safe sex the best place to do it is at the bathhouse or bookstore simply by saying before he puts it in your ass (or mouth depending on your risk comfort), "I have some condoms if you don't have any." Patterns of behavior in sex-charged moments will work better than any ad campaign or all the online griping and judgment in the world. That said, I'm still in favor of thorough sex ed and then only concerning myself with my own choices.

What did I just say about individual choices and judgment? I take it back:

This place is filthy, and I have to admit that I have gotten VD there twice last year.

It reminds me of this BBQ at my grandparents' house when I was a kid. A yard full of all kinds of lawn chairs yet my Grandma kept choosing those with high backs, plopping down and smacking the back of her head on the top of the aluminum frame. Each time she'd exclaim, "I hate these high-back chairs!" It went on like that all afternoon and evening. God love her, and god bless this fellow with the VD, but WTF? Case studies against aversion therapy, I guess.

I should probably stop talking about my Grandma here. She's gone to heaven (or at least somewhere without high-backed lawn furniture, I hope) nearly ten years ago now but it's still an uncomfortable and strange tangent for sex blog. (Sorry, Grandma!) Here is the list of updated Sex Listings this week. Enjoy the weekend, gentlemen.

Sex Listings...

US
Alabama Muscle Shoals
Arizona Phoenix, Tucson
Arkansas Little Rock
California - Northern Sacramento, San Francisco, San Jose
California - Southern Los Angeles, Orange County, Palm Springs, Riverside and San Bernardino Counties, San Diego
Colorado Colorado Springs, Denver
Connecticut East Haven, Hamden, Hartford, Plainfield, Waterbury
Florida Destin, Fort Lauderdale, Key West, Miami, Orlando, Tampa Bay
Georgia Atlanta
Hawaii Honolulu
Illinois Brooklyn, Chicago, Ottawa, Quincy
Indiana Dale, Osceola
Iowa Clinton, Waterloo
Louisiana Leesville, New Orleans, Pineville
Maryland Baltimore, Greenbelt, Salisbury
Massachusetts Boston, Lowell
Michigan Detroit
Minnesota Minneapolis
Missouri Kansas City, Parshley, Reeds, Sweet Springs
Nevada Las Vegas
New Jersey Avenel, Newark/Jersey City, Union, West Caldwell, Woodbridge
New York Long Island, New York City, Port Chester, Poughkeepsie
North Carolina Asheville, Boone
Ohio Cleveland, Dayton
Oklahoma Ardmore
Pennsylvania Altoona, Bartonsville, Bethlehem, Exton, Martins Creek, Philadelphia
Rhode Island Providence
South Carolina Charleston, Greenville, Myrtle Beach, Spartanburg
Tennessee Gatlinburg, Nashville, Shelbyville
Texas - Eastern Corsicana, Dallas, Houston, Lindale, San Antonio
Texas - Western Amarillo
Virginia Ladysmith
Utah Provo
Washington Seattle
Wisconsin Lyndon Station

ELSEWHERE
Australia Sydney (New South Wales)
England Bath (Bristol), Dewsbury (West Yorkshire), Manchester (Manchester)
Guam Tamuning
Mexico Puerto Vallarta
New Zealand Queenstown
Thailand Bangkok
Wales Cardiff (Cardiff), Newport (Newport)

File this in America's already overflowing sex hysteria file. 14, 15, 16 and 17 year olds are being charged with dissemination and possession of child pornography for sending each other nude and semi-nude pics of themselves via cell phone. (The media has call this "sexting" but that phrase just makes me kind of want to puke.)

In the WPXI story, which included contributions from the Associated Press, [Police Captain] Saranko indicated that authorities decided to file the child pornography charges to send a strong message to other minors who might consider sending such photos to friends.

No. They're not sending a message. They're trying to ruin lives. Nude photos getting online can certainly have a negative social impact and particularly so when you're young and any emotional maturity about sex is likely not too developed yet. But the negative impacts are all a big "if" whereas what the Police Captain is doing is guaranteeing these lives will be ruined.

Artur said that because there is no mandatory minimum sentence under Pennsylvania’s child pornography law, unlike the federal statute, the students would not necessarily be incarcerated if they are found guilty. But he noted that convictions would have "serious, serious implications," including forcing them having to register as sexual offenders for at least 10 years.

Good luck getting into college. Or getting a job. Or finding a place to live.

By no stretch of the imagination is it reasonable to sacrifice the lives of these students as some attempt to scare others from taking and sharing the naughty pics. These are teenagers so it's best to rationally deal with the reality of rebellion and sexual exploration that goes with those years rather than foolishly try to stamp-out or deny it. Trying to scare them by labeling some of their peers child pornographers for the rest of their lives is going to be about as effective as abstinence-only education has been.

Retards.

If you submitted your Sex Listing update by 5 pm PST then it's online. This recent comment was sort of mean but it made me laugh. Reminded me of Chris Farley's Matt Foley motivational speaker character on SNL:

"That troll is not the owner. He's just a guy who lives in his van and works there."

"First off, I am thirty-five years old. I am divorced. And I live in a van down by the river!"

Now, gentlemen, let me send you off to what I hope is a great weekend with a little viva la airport sex:

Germany Frankfurt: Flughafen Frankfurt. Cruisy toilet. Located between B and C sections near the parking garage. This update added January, 2009: "Damn this is hot! When I got to a urinal to take a piss I noticed a guy a few urinals away from me was jacking off. Naturally I smiled and we ended up having some fun within a cubicle (stall). What a great way to spend my four-hour layover. I'll always change planes in Frankfurt now."

Your updated locations...

Sex Listings...

US
Alabama Birmingham, Mobile
Arizona Flagstaff, Phoenix
Arkansas North Little Rock, Texarkana
California - Northern Sacramento, San Francisco
California - Southern Los Angeles, Riverside and San Bernardino Counties, San Diego
Colorado Denver
Connecticut Bridgeport, Hamden, New Haven
Florida Cocoa, Daytona Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, North Fort Myers, Orlando
Georgia Atlanta
Illinois Chicago, Washington Park
Indiana Clarksville, Gary
Iowa Clinton, Sioux City
Kansas Topeka
Kentucky Muldraugh, Radcliffe
Louisiana New Orleans
Maryland Baltimore, Upper Marlboro
Massachusetts Boston, Fitchburg, Haverhill, Lancaster, Lowell
Minnesota Minneapolis
Mississippi Heidelberg, Sandersville
Nevada Las Vegas
New Hampshire Hanover, Seabrook
New Jersey Elizabeth, Springfield, Summit, Titusville, Union, West Windsor
New York New York City, Newburgh, Poughkeepsie
North Carolina Burlington, Waynesville
Ohio Dayton, Kettering, Mansfield, Toledo, Youngstown
Oregon Portland Portland
Pennsylvania Applebachville, Milroy, New Brighton, Palmyra, Philadelphia, Pittsburgh, Wilkes-Barre
South Carolina Anderson, Beaufort, Columbia, Dillon, South of the Border, Spartanburg
South Dakota Sioux Falls
Tennessee Chattanooga, Jackson
Texas - Eastern Bryan, Dallas, Haltom City, Houston
Texas - Western Odessa
Washington Bremerton, Olympia, Seattle
West Virginia Morgantown
Wisconsin Wauwatosa

ELSEWHERE
Australia Brisbane (Queensland), Sydney (New South Wales)
Canada Airdrie (Alberta), Vancouver (British Columbia), Victoria British Columbia
England London
Germany Frankfurt

If you submitted an update or new tip to the Sex Listings before 3 pm PST it's online. Below is the list of places I've updated in the last week. We had a lot of non-US locations updated, which is always greatly appreciated.

As Keith recently mentioned, I'm in the midst of moving on from Cruising for Sex after almost nine years. Chances are I'll be doing some part-time haunting but for many reasons I'm looking for a new M-F/9-5. Health care plays its part because it's so hard for small businesses to get group coverage and almost impossible if the employees wish to reside in different states. But that's just one piece of a completely fucked up health care system. There's a bit of sex-fatigue motivating me to move on, too. Soon I will not have to sit down at my desk each morning and first thing look at and approve extremely graphic photos. My primary personal motivation for moving on is common enough for all of us -- I need to go learn and do new things and find something at which I can be really excellent. In the short term, the next four or five years, it's likely I'll be doing something similar to what I do for Keith: books and cash management, dealing with benefits, and all manner of things administrative and project coordination related, and supporting a small business owner or exec. It's not a dynamic I dislike, the tremendous trust someone invests in me to make sure the bills are paid and the money keeps coming in. That part of my relationship with Keith, the trust, and my employer before him has been the most rewarding thing I've experienced since I started working at fifteen years old (twenty-one years ago, wow). For $2.90 an hour! In the long term, I'm heading back to finish my degree, or a degree. I have a few years before I've met some financial goals and I can return part-time without going into debt. In that time I'll figure out exactly what I want but it's not likely I'll finish my BA in English. Right now my brain's a bit too irrationally exuberant -- I'm gonna be an astronaut! Or a cowboy!

The search for a new position has been underway for a couple months now. This job market is brutal and though managing CFS is no different than managing any other small business, and the projects and skills needed to keep it going day-to-day are no different than those at the banks, ad agencies, garment manufacturers, etc. where I've worked, some folks I've interviewed with believe that adult business automatically equals illegitimate. Even after talking nuts and bolts of accounting procedures or describing programming projects we've pulled together I've still left interviews with the "yeah, but it's porn and any old thing just makes money when it comes to sex..." vibe. Maybe a decade ago but the online market has long been saturated with video, pictorial and hookup sites. And the nature of the Internet is the-next-greatest-thing is just a few months away so count on any explosion of popularity to be a blip and then you better work your ass off to create and recreate over and over a space where the remaining community stays happy -- the retention and slow build is where the hard work really lies.

Of course some interviewers are simply convinced that porn is crime (*sigh* it's our "sex is bad" culture) and no matter how spiffy my Sunday-goin'-to-interview suit is they're not going to see it otherwise.

So that's my job hunt story thus far. Got a Bay Area lead for me? Pass it along. And have a good weekend, gentlemen!

Sex Listings...

US
Alabama Birmingham, Mobile
Arizona Phoenix
Arkansas Little Rock, Paragould
California - Northern Sacramento, San Francisco
California - Southern El Centro, Los Angeles, Orange County, Palm Springs, Riverside and San Bernardino Counties, Palm Springs, San Diego
Colorado Colorado Springs, Denver
Connecticut East Haven, Hamden
Delaware New Castle
Florida Dade City, Fort Lauderdale, Miami, Orlando, Venice
Georgia Atlanta, Savannah
Illinois Chicago, East Moline, Springfield, Washington Park
Indiana Linton, South Bend
Iowa Des Moines
Kansas New Strawn, Olathe
Kentucky Richmond
Louisiana New Orleans
Maine Kittery
Maryland Laurel, Rockville
Massachusetts Boston, Brockton, Raynham
Michigan Wyoming
Minnesota Duluth, Minneapolis
Missouri Ava, Joplin, Parshley
Montana Missoula
Nevada Las Vegas
New Hampshire Concord, Seabrook
New Jersey Avenel, Berlin, Hoboken, Livingston, Palisade Park, Sandy Hook, South Toms River, Totowa
New York Brewster, Mattydale, New York City, Newburgh, Peekskill, Rochester, Syracuse
North Carolina Aberdeen, Burlington, Charlotte, Conover, Greenville, Kannapolis
Ohio Athens, Cincinnati, Dayton
Oregon Portland
Pennsylvania East Stroudsburg, Fayetteville, Liverpool, Pottstown
South Carolina Dillon, Greenwood
Tennessee Kingston
Texas - Eastern Aransas Pass, Austin, Brownsville, Dallas, Houston, San Antonio
Utah Saint George
Washington Olympia, Seattle
Wisconsin Greendale, Hales Corners, Janesville
West Virginia Beaver, Fayetteville, Julian, Parkersburg, Pliny

ELSEWHERE
Argentina Buenos Aires, Cordoba, mar del Plata, San Martin de los Andes
Australia Brisbane (Queensland), Byron Beach(New South Wales), Gold Coast (Queensland), Sydney (New South Wales)
Brazil Rio de Janeiro
Canada Vancouver (British Columbia)
Columbia Santa Fe de Bogota
Costa Rica Quepos, San Jose
Egypt Cairo, Luxor
England Brogborough (Bedfordshire), Clophill (Bedfordshire)
Italy Desenzano del Garda, Padua,
Mexico Cancun, Mazatlan, Puerto Vallarta
Scotland Kirkcaldy (Fife)
Spain Madrid
Switzerland Geneva
Taiwan Taipei
Thailand Bangkok
Tunisia Sousse
Turkey Istanbul