Oh my beloved NYC people. You write some of my favorite Sex Listings comments, gentlemen.

New York New York City: Equinox Fitness Club, Broadway, Manhattan. Cruisy healthclub. This updated added December, 2009: "Past its glory days of the 90s and early 00s when a solidly hot, young professional crowd ruled the misty vapors of steam. Thanks in part to cheap competition from the nearby NYSC, the crowd is now decidedly older (which by itself is not a problem!), fatter and more straight. Unexpected bonus for religious fetishists: there’s the occasional Orthodox Jew who wants to rub one out between Torah readings."

And this one, indicating the financial collapse has impacted the cruising scene too:

New York New York City: Equinox Fitness Club, at 50th Street and Broadway, Manhattan. Cruisy healthclub. This update added December, 2008: "Very hot crowd if you're a corporate aficionado. Lunchtime is active, as is early weeknights. However the fall of Lehman Brothers has undoubtedly taken its toll on the hot factor here."

Maybe good news for the hot factor at the adult bookstores out in the Northern Jersey suburbs. I suspect a few of the Lehman people are finding their relief with the peons these days.

Last, I believe this is the only time I've ever heard the phrase "savant-like perverts":

New York New York City: X-Pressions, East 53rd Street, Manhattan. Bookstore with arcade. This update added December, 2008: "This place defines hit-or-miss. One Friday night at 4 am, I hooked up with a suited prepster who took me back to his swank pad. Turns out he's a major hot closet case who's often on the society pages. But this is the rare exception. The regular menu is low-fuctioning, savant-like perverts who can't read body language."

Happy New Year, gentlemen. I was reading about Keith's resolutions yesterday and while I've never been one to make any perhaps he's right that the creation of them is an important thing because it can't be done without some pretty active self-reflection. The most important thing I can do for myself in the new year is stop rolling my eyes at the notion of "step into your fears" and do it more often. It only feels sort of corny to start with but every time I do step into a fear I come out, fail or pass, feeling like I just accomplished something important. Anyway, talking confidence is picking at a big thread for me so I'll leave it at that: I resolve to question my fears less and step right into them.

If you submitted a Sex Listings update before 1 pm PST today it's online. Here's the list of updated locations so far this week.

Sex Listings...

US
Alabama Bessemer, Birmingham, Pelham
Arizona Phoenix
California - Northern Fairfield, San Francisco, Santa Cruz
California - Southern Boron, Los Angeles, Orange County, Riverside and San Bernardino Counties, San Diego
Colorado Colorado Springs, Denver
Connecticut Putnam, Waterbury
Florida Inverness, Miami, Tampa Bay
Georgia Atlanta, Waycross
Hawaii Waimanalo
Illinois Chicago, Peoria
Indiana Indianapolis
Louisiana New Orleans, Shreveport
Massachusetts Dedham, Holyoke
Minnesota Minneapolis
Nevada Las Vegas, Pahrump, Reno
New Hampshire Seabrook
New Jersey Atlantic City, Union
New York Buffalo, Long Island, New York City
North Carolina Clyde, Gastonia, Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill, Winston-Salem/Greenboro/High Point, Yanceyville
Ohio Columbus, Marion
Oregon Eugene
Pennsylvania Lake City, Philadelphia, Pittsburgh, State College
Tennessee Memphis
Texas - Eastern Athens, Austin, Dallas, Hempstead, Houston, Tyler
Washington McLean
West Virginia Clarksburg

ELSEWHERE
Australia Cairns (Queensland), Sydney (New South Wales)
Canada Calgary (Alberta)
Germany Frankfurt
Rhode Island North Kingstown
Switzerland Zurich

How was your Christmas? I watched some movies at home with my pup. No traditional meal this year for me. I bought this great thick-cut peppered bacon and had a BLT on toasted rye. Found an interesting recipe for a gourmet baked macaroni and cheese -- turned out great but made a lot so I'll be eating it all weekend. Steamed some asparagus and had a glass or three of pinot noir. And desert was a pumpkin bread with a cream cheese filling I'd made the night before. I'll be eating that all weekend, too.

Keith's encouraging me to take some time off during the holidays and suggested I go to one of the Japanese baths or to Steamworks. I've never been to Steamworks so that's sort of intriguing. Though two weeks ago I was at a holiday party and one of the guests does some sort of medical research on infectious diseases. He was relating a story about how they'd been contacted (by a city agency maybe?) to see if they could help with an outbreak of TB that seems to be centered around one of the adult bookstores south of Market. (It was fascinating, reassuring and creepy all at the same time learning how they can narrow things down to a source location, the block proximity of the likely initial host's home to the store, etc.) Look, I'm not getting all panicky, and getting on the underground and touching all the railings can't be much more of a health risk than an ABS, but go get yourself tested routinely not just for STDs if you're active but get yourself a TB test every now and then, too.

So maybe I'll just stick to me, myself and porn because Gabe does not need to even flirt with TB. I could entertain myself almost endlessly watching scene 4 of Berlin Privat 6. Based solely on the cum shot in that scene I've selected the video to write up my first review. The rest of it's good too but man-oh-man what a great shot.

Ok, all Sex Listings submitted between last Saturday night and this afternoon are online. Maybe I've mentioned this before but please refrain from 'Heads up' items like this:

Watch out for the cops and their sting operation!

That's a given for any public cruising location. It's simply not helpful to repeat it as a comment on every public location in the Listings.

This was one of the best updates to come in over the last couple of days. Maybe I should venture to the East Bay not only to check out Steamworks:

California - Northern San Francisco: Aquatic Park, Bolivar Drive, Berkeley. Cruisy parking lot. This update added December, 2008: "Checked this place out after reading an ad online for quick anonymous encounter on the north end early evening and found a hot Latino guy by the restrooms. I rubbed my crotch and he followed me to the picnic area and I fucked him deep, hard, and came twice while I had him bent over the picnic table. Hot! Made plans to meet again the next night and found him there getting plowed by a black dude with a huge cock. I joined him and we tagged team for a good hour. The pace was quiet for the most part and great place for anonymous encounter."

I do so love our travelers and their tips. Hotels.com doesn't let you filter based on dick accessibility:

Netherlands Amsterdam: Hotel Anco, Overvruyggat Canalstraat 55. Motel with bathhouse-type action. This update added December, 2008: "Hotel on a canal where you can go naked inside, cruise for dick, and leave your room door open safely. Just be forewarned that there is no elevator, just a steep, tight spiraling staircase that is murder on getting bags up and down. But the available meat here is cool, all ages, all types."

Oh, and look! A recent graduate of the Paris Hilton School of Humility, Compassion & Emotional Depth:

Connecticut East Haven: Romantix Adult Emporium, On Foxon Road. Bookstore with arcade. This update added December, 2008: "What the fuck is up with trolls everywhere. Get a job. It's the same ones too, seems like they live there. It's not that I hate anyone but when you say leave me alone they don't. They keep coming back, or asking if you want head. I am nineteen years old so why would I want a sixty year old to suck my cock. Or even watch me. Damn it's frustrating when you’re waiting for a hottie to come in and they bug you."

What's wrong with spending your retirement chasing dick? Beats jigsaw puzzles and The Weather Channel. And dude, think about this: those men think you're sexy and immensely appealing. Being gracious and appreciative of something that will be fleeting only requires that you enjoy the attention and let them watch. They get off. Your ego's fed (god help us). Everyone wins. And who knows? Maybe one day some old troll who's maybe like thirty-nine or forty years old will somehow manage to have you saying "yes, daddy, please!"

Enjoy the weekend, gentlemen. I hope you're in the midst of a nice, long four-day one. Here's your list of updated locations.

Sex Listings...

US
Arizona Phoenix, Yuma
California - Northern Fresno, Sacramento, San Francisco
California - Southern Bakersfield Los Angeles, Orange County, Riverside and San Bernardino Counties, San Diego
Connecticut East Haven, Hartford, Waterbury
blue">Florida Cocoa, Daytona Beach, Fort Lauderdale, Gainesville, Key West, Miami, Orlando, Palm Beach County, Satellite Beach, Tallahassee
Hawaii Honolulu
Illinois Brooklyn, Springfield
Iowa Ames
Kentucky Horse Cave
Maryland Baltimore, Belcamp, Edgewood
Massachusetts Boston, Fall River, Methuen, Raynham, Salisbury
Michigan Detroit
Nevada Las Vegas
New Jersey Avenel, New Brunswick
New York Buffalo, Middletown, New York City, Spring Valley, Syracuse
North Carolina Greenville, Raleigh
Ohio Cincinnati
Oklahoma Shawnee
Oregon Portland
Pennsylvania Allentown, Milroy, Reading, Tannersville
Tennessee Nashville, Pioneer
Texas - Eastern Austin, Dallas, Texarkana
Virginia Alexandria, Arlington, McLean, Norfolk, Waverly
Washington Tacoma

ELSEWHERE
Canada Saint John (New Brunswick)
England Lichfield (Staffordshire)
Germany Munich
Netherlands Amsterdam
South Africa Cape Town
Spain Palma de Mallorca, Valencia

I've been busy with holiday guests the last couple days but I took some time today and posted all your Sex Listings updates from the last two days. If it arrived before about noon PST, it's online. The list of updated locations at the bottom includes everything from Tuesday through today. This weekend is the extent of holiday stuff for me. Although maybe I can go to Rick Warren's house from Christmas and he can serve me water and donuts before trying to cure and pray my "immaturity" away. Or maybe he'll just wait for our presidential inauguration to wag his finger at us, or pretend he isn't some whacko. Thanks, Obama! Maybe you can exhume Jerry Falwell and have him there, too.

Moving on to Sex Listings that caught my attention, not many the last few days for reasons other than amusement. Like this one. Everyone's a critic:

Pennsylvania Philadelphia: Adonis Cinema, 2026 Sansom Street. Theatre showing porn. This update added December, 2008: "The renovation is done. The front of the store looks a lot better but the same old booths are there, just rearranged. Only one has a gloryhole and all are pretty dirty. Not to mention the dye-job queen.

And this one. Politely put, my friend:

North Carolina Durham: Monster Video, 3801 Wake Forest Highway. Bookstore with arcade. This update added December, 2008: "The owner was pleasant. After paying, I went into the ‘Cave’ and found only two guys, one that appeared to have been drinking and the other one, well, let me just say there was another one. The booths have relatively new monitors but that was not why I went. They built it but no ones comes."

Or this one. I love those very rare indelible bits of pop culture:

North CarolinaRaleigh: Aphrodite's, 6129 Westgate Road. Bookstore with arcade. This update added December, 2008: "Sometime back it was great but now it is like the Soup Nazi from Seinfeld has found a new job as a cashier for a bookstore. She constantly yells, goes to the back. She even makes sure that you don't sit in your car after you exit the store and that you start it immediately and drive away. Might as well use the $2 for something else because this is not worth a dime."

Enjoy your weekend, gentlemen. I'll be posting your Listings updates again on Monday morning and all through the week and holiday so get 'em in -- if it's anything like site traffic on Thanksgiving was then I know many of you have time off and will be consulting the Listings.

Sex Listings...

US

Alabama Birmingham, Brookwood
Arizona Phoenix
Arkansas North Little Rock
California - Northern Redding, San Francisco
California - Southern Los Angeles, Orange County, Riverside and San Bernardino Counties, Tecopa
Colorado Denver
Connecticut Bridgeport, East Hartford, New Canaan
Florida Fort Lauderdale, Miami, Tallahassee, Tampa Bay
Georgia Atlanta
Hawaii Honolulu
Idaho Boise
Illinois Byron, Chicago, Rock Island
Indiana Plainfield
Iowa Clinton
Kentucky Corbin, Franklin, London
Louisiana New Orleans
Maryland Beltsville, White Marsh, Wye Mills
Massachusetts Boston, Holyoke, Lancaster
Michigan Chelsea, Grand Rapids
New Hampshire Manchester
New Jersey Avenel, Somers Point, South Orange, South Toms River, Voorhees
New Mexico Albuquerque
New York Long Island, New York City
North Carolina Blowing Rock, Burlington, Durham, Fayetteville, Raleigh, Sanford, Winston Salem
Ohio Columbus, Findlay
Oregon Portland
Pennsylvania Philadelphia, Pittsburgh, Stoystown, Stroudsburg
Puerto Rico Rio Piedras
South Carolina Bowman
Texas - Eastern Dallas, Houston
Washington Bellingham, Seattle
Washington DC
West Virginia Huntington, Wheeling

ELSEWHERE
Australia Brisbane (Queensland), Sydney (New South Wales)
Costa Rica San Jose, San Pedro
England Colchester (Essex), Dover (Kent), London
Germany Roetgen
Japan Okinawa
Mexico Mexico City
New Zealand Auckland
Switzerland Zurich

Think of these as Best Sex Listings Comments of 2008. It's a collection of phrases, situations, and scenarios that really caught my attention. Though if I had to pick a hands-down winner for Best Cruising Term of 2008 it's "gloryhole-appropriate." That jumped out as I browsed all the 2008 newsletters. I couldn't find the Sex Listing it referred to but had quoted the phrase. And as I said then, Cruising for Sex is nothing if it's not a guide to all things gloryhole-appropriate.

Bush River Books & Video is a Sex Listings perennial. In late spring we had one of the most uniquely descriptive phrases of the year about a certain smell. And I think this writer is also responsible for a subsequent comment with another wonderful turn of phrase.

Maryland Edgewood: Bush River Books & Video, 3909 Pulaski Highway (Route 40). Bookstore with arcade, theatre.

This updated added April, 2008: "This place never fails to satisfy. I know I can go here pretty much any time day or night and either suck some cock or get mine sucked and usually, both! I’ve even been fucked here a few times. The only downside is that it is pretty dirty and rundown. It smells like the DNA of 10,000 horny men!"

This update added May, 2008: "I was there yesterday. The theater started off slow but got very good as the day went on. I had an assembly line of four cocks in just a few minutes. Then I rented the private room and had a steady line of visitors. Had one thick cock up my ass and abused a gorgeous big-dicked bull’s ass. Overall, a four-star day for me!"

This particular Bally Total Fitness was in the most recent newsletter, too!

Texas - Eastern Houston: Bally Total Fitness, 2500 Dunstan Street. Cruisy healthclub. This update added April, 2008: "Having frequented this place many times in the past two years let me tell you it is the best public hookup public place. The steamroom always has some action. My best memory is sitting in the steamroom, a guy to the right of me giving me a handjob while I'm fingering his beautiful ass, and suddenly a guy sits in front of me on a lower bench and I toe-fuck his ass with my left foot while he sucks another guy off -- and some other guy is watching the whole thing pinching my nipple until I jizzed all over the place from the superb handjob. Fun times. Just a ‘heads up’ though: be careful as there have been a couple of rumors of raids by the staff."

Cell Block has been closed for renovations long enough that people are wondering in comments if it's closed for good. Their website is still up so let's hope they do re-open and the action hasn't been gentrified and beautified out of existence. Sometimes homos and our incessant upscaling really bugs because it can kill hot anonymous wife-out-of-town scenarios like this one.

Arizona Phoenix: Cell Block, 998 E. Indian School Road. Cruise bar with dark room. This update added May, 2008: "Guys, this place is cool any night of the week. Headed home last Monday night I thought I'd stop in for a beer since the wife was out of town. I got a draft and headed to the back room and within minutes was approached by a dude who wanted to play (I'm up for anything). I dropped my shorts, took off my t-shirt and had two dudes sucking on my cock within twenty minutes of arriving. Mind you, there were maybe fifty guys in the whole place and not too many took an interest. A small crowd gathered and watched (even the bartender) as I blew my load down some dude’s throat. After a second beer and resting on the benches one of the guys watching came over and took my cock out of my shorts. He jacked a second (big) load out of me, came himself with others watching. Good place for happy hour, I have decided!"

This beach was flagged as a former Site of the Week and though we have had few updates for it, that designation was apparently well-earned. My favorite part is where they throw a towel over the guy getting fucked while a non-cruiser strolls by. Can't you just see these guys resting their beers on the towel-covered bottom, idly whistling, trying to look casual?

Connecticut Westport: Sherwood Island Beach. Cruisy beach and nearby woods. This update added July, 2008: "I heard about this beach before. I haven't had sex in a while so I went to check it out last week. I went down to the east side of the beach and after a while I spotted three young guys further down. I walked down and started small talk with them and sat down. I noticed that one of them had a boner. I reached over and felt it and told the guys I needed to get fucked. Well, that is all I needed to say. They walked me over to the taller grass and as one kept watch they took turns fucking me, like a tag team. Only one time did a lady come close walking by, they threw a towel over me and after she was out of sight off came the towel and legs up in the air again as the fuckfest went on. They only stopped when we ran out of rubbers. I had brought three with me and they had plenty. I had a hard time walking back to the car but felt great. I’ve got to go back again. Well worth the $7 entrance fee to the park!"

"Horsecock slop-fest" was a close second when I think of Best Cruising Term of 2008. Comments that specify a trick's dick size in inches can seem like unnecessary "yeah! that's the ticket" exaggeration. I mean, are that many of you out there cruising with a tape measure? But in this comment it really, really works.

Massachusetts Boston: Main Street Video, 372 Mystic Avenue, Somerville. Bookstore with arcade. This update added August, 2008: "I was there last Tuesday for two cock-filled hours and had the hottest time. There were a number of guys and some good three-way action, too. But I had the hottest married businessman with what had to be eleven inches of the fattest uncut horsemeat dangling. What a specimen. He said he hadn't cum in almost two weeks. What a horsecock slopfest I had in that booth! I will be back!"

While this was a pretty hot scenario I also chose it because the writer makes an important point about what American cruisers are missing out on. European sexclubs are hardly sex only. They often mix dancing and drinking, and sex is considered an equally social function, complimentarily social even!

France Paris: Le Depot, 10 Rue aux Ours. Sexclub. This update added August, 2008: "Fucking great! There are two and a half floors with music and a bar upstairs plus a side room with booths. There's a small second floor of booths, too. Downstairs is more serious if you're looking to get off. There's a very tiny dance floor with a tiny bar located in the center of a maze of black hallways lined with nice sized booths, some larger than others, some with slings, one huge for groups. Like any sexclub (or club) guys are everything from nasty to hot as fuck! You can avoid the nasty guys as they are usually not trolling around but babysitting booths with the cocks in-hand. The rest of the hotties are walking around seeing what's good. Coming from America this place makes cruising fun again! I was there my second time and while just walking from the coat check to the bar the guy of my wet dreams walks past. I nearly blew a load in my shorts. Five minutes later he walked past staring at me, licking and poking his tounge on the inside of his cheek (kind of like a sleazy straight guy move but better because he was fucing hot!). I followed him downstairs and was so excited. I went to pull out my big dick and be cocky and show it off, and he smiled with wide eyes and giggled because my nine-inch cock was nothing compared to what flopped out when he unzipped his jeans (no underwear mind you!). This huge club of a big pink white cock fell out hard. It was so huge it couldn't stand up hard because it was so heavy. It was the size of my forearm, at least twelve-inches and just as wide as the base of my forearm. I was in love right away! I spent the next two hours with him 100% naked in the booth and sucking each other off before he ripped my hole open! I never could take it but I wish to God I had another chance. I wouldn't stop till it was up my ass and he was drilling me away and filling me up with his load!"

I chose this one because hooking up with the hot, sweaty blue-collar landscaper is right out of a porn movie. That isn't going to happen when you're at home doing the digital cruising thing.

Florida Tampa: Florida Tampa: Buddies of Largo, 13801 66th Street, Largo. Theatre showing porn. This update added September, 2008: "I was there on Wednesday around 4 pm, after a day of work. I noticed a guy with no shirt driving up in a landscaping truck. He pulled in beside me. Got out of his car, put his shirt on and went in. I followed. Dropped a dollar in the movies and he walked into my booth, lifted up his shirt. I followed his trail to his dick and sucked him dry. He left and I went into the movie arcade and played with a group of guys in the back room till my rocks exploded. All ages from all walks of life here. Definitely place to find dick and a quick blowjob. It’s one hot place."

We get few updates for the Montana Sex Listings so this one was notable for that alone but the scenario is also right out of a porn movie and is hotter than almost any comment for a big city bathhouse or sexclub.

Montana Pray: Chico Hot Springs. Cruisy natural springs. This update added August, 2008: "Bi, closeted guy here. I went over to check things out and had some fun. It’s best when the resort is full, and it can be a little hard to figure out who is interested in playing, but I hooked up with a really good-looking married guy. We made a lot of eye contact in the hot springs to seal the deal, and then when he got out to go to the showers I noticed as his trunks clung to him that his dick was hard. Followed him to the showers and then went for a little hike. We traded head in the woods and then he let me fuck him. Good times. A little sparse and you have to watch that you don't blow your cover, but an awesome way to find a cum buddy.

Again with the porn scenarios! I'm a tiny bit skeptical about total authenticity of this tip, and that happens so we depend on you guys to vet them over time. That aside, the writer is either lucky as hell or really should be writing porn.

Oklahoma Jay: Lake Eucha Park, on Highway 10. Cruisy park, toilet. This update added September, 2008: "I was here at the end of August. Hooked up with a local thirty-something guy driving a delivery truck. We kissed, sucked and fondled each other. Shot our loads into each other’s hands. Came back two days later and hooked with a young cowboy, totally hot: hat, boots, farmer’s tan, Wranglers and a wedding ring. I ended up sucking him off after he stroked me off and ate my load. Said it was his first time eating jizz."

Rounding out my top 10 is a comment that strikes close to home for Cruising for Sex. Hurricane Katrina did a number on us so it's nice to see some good come out of it!

Mississippi McNeill: Rest area, off I-59, southbound. This update added February, 2008: "Sucked off a hot daddy in the Katrina trailer he was hauling and got fucked by a big-dicked trucker in his cab all in a two hour span here."

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Want more? Read our Sex Listings Popularity Lists here:

Part 1 including sex in Manhattan, Queens, suburban Chicago, and Fort Lauderdale. Go here to read part 1.

Part 2 including reports from Horse Cave, Kentucky, Somerville, Mass, West Hollywood, and Las Vegas. Go here to read part 2.

It's Friday so if your Sex Listings update arrived by 4 pm PST, it's online.

There truly aren't many public bathrooms that are almost non-stop cruising because it's simply not practical. Some exist and they're here in the Sex Listings (I'm looking at you UCLA's Royce Hall) but most cruisy toilets are all about regularly sporadic action, "your results may vary" stuff. I see things like this in the Listings often enough. On December 8th:

California - Southern Los Angeles: Hines Warner Center, 5700 Canoga Avenue, Woodland Hills. Cruisy toilet on the second floor. this updated added December, 2008: "I'm wondering how this place got listed. I went to check it out twice last week and found there to be no action yet. I mean, it’s in this random office building. Seems like there would be a ton of other places in the Valley area that could be way better. Maybe I just haven’t had the timing right. I was hard as a rock sitting in the stall waiting for something good to happen."

e same location, on December 11th:

I've been there, too. Nothing happened! This is bogus!

Why would someone say it's bogus when they've just read that some other guy had been sitting there hard as a rock and waiting? Well, at least two of you are cruising it, three if you count the guy who originally submitted the tip back in April, four if you include the Mexican guy that he sucked off who works at the Baja Fresh. It's all about reasonable expectations in locations like this. It's not going to be a bathhouse. And if people do carry on like it is a bath it'll be busted in no time...with those rare exceptions I mentioned.

When this arrived nothing was capitalized or punctuated so at first I wondered, what the hell is a "mean fiddler"? Was is some sort Australian slang or sexual euphemism? There's a ton of them after all. But no. In just one search/click the mighty Google tells me it's a bar. How long before we can't remember life before Google?

Australia - New South Wales Rouse Hill: Cruisy park. Located at the lake at the bottom of town center. This update added December, 2008: "The best times are Friday and Saturday nights after 11 pm. Guys leaving The Mean Fiddler are looking to get their cocks sucked."

And here's the pick of the Listings updates over the last three days.

Massachusetts Boston: Main Street Video, 372 Mystic Avenue, Somerville. Bookstore with arcade. This update from December, 2008: "I lived throughout the Northeast (NYC included) and this is hands down the best place to get some Latino meat. I am in my mid-thirties and pretty athletic, muscular, considered pretty handsome, and never have trouble finding another jock to play with. This night I came in and immediately this beefy Latino met eyes with me. I entered a booth, he followed and within seconds this very handsome, masculine dude was sucking me. He easily had an eight-pack and nice chest and a sexy face and the ass was awesome. He wanted to be fucked but he was too tight and the booth too small so he settled for lying on his back and letting me suck his hole until he pushed his dick towards me and I cupped the head in my mouth and got the thickest and sweetest cum I have ever had. Of course he let out some of the sexiest moans. He then returned the favor as I pushed my dick down his throat along with six squirts. And he swallowed it all. Come to find out he is married and has two kids. We are now fuck buddies. This place rocks!"

Enjoy your weekend, gentlemen. I look forward to reading about it Monday, as always.

Sex Listings...

US
Alabama Birmingham
California - Northern Sacramento
California - Southern Los Angeles
Connecticut New Britain
Georgia Atlanta
Hawaii Honolulu, Kahului
Illinois Buckley, Chicago
Indiana Gary, Portage
Kentucky Mount Sterling
Louisiana New Orleans
Maryland Frederick, Hagerstown
Massachusetts Boston
New Hampshire Salem
New Jersey Newark
New York Long Island, New York City
North Carolina Burlington, Charlotte
Ohio Cleveland, Kettering
Oklahoma Alva
Oregon Portland, Springfield
South Carolina Greenville
Tennessee Antioch
Texas - Eastern Austin, Dallas, Dickinson, Hempstead, Houston, San Antonio
Vermont Springfield
Virginia Virginia Beach
Washington Seattle
Washington DC
Wisconsin East Troy, Janesville, Kenosha

ELSEWHERE
Australia Rouse Hill (New South Wales)

Busy weekend, people? Jesus. I've added over a hundred updates to the Sex Listings since logging in yesterday morning. If it came in before 3 pm PST today, it's online. Many thanks, of course.

One of the highlights:

Kentucky Lexington: Fayette Mall, 3401 Nicholasville Road. Cruisy toilet on the second floor of Macy's. This update added December, 2008: "I was there this afternoon around lunchtime. Started jacking off in the stall and noticed a hot guy checking me out through the crack in the door. I was like ‘what the hell?’ and flipped the latch open with my foot. Next thing I know I’m on my knees blowing a guy right there in the last stall. After I finished off his load he returned the favor by bending over and letting me get my nut in his ass! I'll be back there again!"

And one of the more bizarre updates I've read in a long time:

California San Francisco: Buena Vista Park, off Haight Street. Cruisy park. This update added December, 2008: "I was informed by regular that someone had hung himself along the dirt path (by the fence) on the south end earlier in the week. Apparently the dude was very depressed or something. I found a couple hot cocks and was dicked by two buddies down by the tennis court restroom area before leaving. It was hot after getting over being a bit spooked."

Personally, I'd have turned around and went home. No judgment on this guy or anyone else who knew and stuck around to cruise. I mean, big cities and all -- god only knows what's happened in the past in your own apartment when it's eighty years old. Still, I'd have been a bit weirded out. No doubt some would point to this and say oh how soulless and depressing anonymous sex is. Um, no. If you're not feeding your head and your heart whatever it needs then anything you consciously, or not, deem a substitute or solution has the potential to leave you feeling even more empty. I get really annoyed with people who think that if you're not having sex in some sort of staid routine then you simply must be having it for the wrong reasons. Of course it's always good to look at what your motivations for anything are but a sex life that's not traditional (which is a bullshit term) does not in any way automatically equal or relate to emotional problems. I think this was an ABC After School Special: "Just Know Thyself, Slut: It'll All Be Cool".

Here are your updates.

Sex Listings...

US
Arizona Phoenix
California - Northern San Francisco
California - Southern Los Angeles, San Diego
Florida Fort Lauderdale, Jacksonville, Melbourne, Miami, Orlando, Tampa Bay
Georgia Atlanta, Villa Rica
Hawaii Honolulu
Illinois Chicago
Indiana South Bend
Kentucky Lexington
Louisiana New Orleans
Maryland Baltimore, Beltsville, Hagerstown
Massachusetts Boston, Lowell, Springfield, West Boylston
Michigan Detroit, Escanaba, Swartz Creek
Missouri Kansas City
Montana Bozeman
Nebraska Omaha
Nevada Reno
New Jersey Newark, Turnersville
New Mexico Albuquerque
New York Buffalo, Long Island, New Paltz, New York City, Painted Post, Rensselear
Ohio Akron, Cleveland, Edenton, Oak Hill, Toledo
Pennsylvania Erie, Pittsburgh
Tennessee Hendersonville
Texas - Eastern Austin, Houston, Orange
Virginia Frederickburg, Virginia Beach
Washington Everett
Washington DC

ELSEWHERE
Australia Sydney (New South Wales)
Germany Munich
Hungary Budapest
New Caledonia Noumea
Switzerland Zurich
Thailand Bangkok
Turkey Istanbul

As usual, if your Sex Listings update came in by 3 pm PST or so then it's online. Thanks for the info, gentlemen.

Tuesday night I went to the Castro Theatre to see Milk. As expected at first it felt surreal to be sitting in the same theatre featured in many of the film's exterior shots and the old news footage Van Sant uses. But before the opening credits were even over it felt like a privilege to be in the theatre. Those credits were among the most moving parts of the film, seeing the shame men felt being arrested for simply being in a gay bar. Even as a teenager in the late 80s I struggled a bit knowing I was gay but never felt anything like that sort of shame. It was great to see a film about some of the people to whom I owe that relative freedom and ease of passage into an out life.

The film is definitely worth seeing. Sean Penn is a good actor but like many stars I find myself still seeing Sean Penn to some degree on the screen no matter the role. He is lost here. I only saw Harvey Milk. His performance gives the film its strength. The film's writing is decent enough but would not have carried a lesser performance than Penn's. The supporting roles are all fairly small but every one is well done. Emile Hirsch as Cleve Jones is great such that it left me always wanting to see more of the character, to know more. The same is true for James Franco's portrayal of Scott Smith. He and Penn are so very believable and easy together that I found myself with a little ache and envy for that happiness and familiarity of being in love. And the scene with Penn and Hirsch's Jones when he returns to the city heartbroken...maybe the best of the movie.

So see this film. It's not perfect but very, very moving, put together very well, and vital history for gay men to understand and appreciate. The funny thing is it's not just our history, it's our present yet. After an election season full of Prop 8 and its heinous TV ads the parallels you'll see in this film are stunning. I left the Castro Theatre feeling not unlike I did on election night -- grateful and amazed at how far we've come but with a good smack in the face about how fragile it is and what's yet to be done.

Ok, now for my Sex Listings picks from the week. Max's Gym & Health Club has some of the more polarized reviews of all the Listings. People love it or loathe it in near-vicious terms. This was a lover:

Hawaii Honolulu: Max's Gym & Health Club, 444 Hobron Lane, Waikiki. Bathhouse with full facilities. This update added December, 2008: "The place was clean, comfortable and had a number of hot guys of a variety of ages and types. I went on a Thursday night about 11 pm and lucked out with a hung, stocky twenty-three year old Frenchman and another younger guy in the shower, then found a thirty-ish lean blond surfer who took me to his room to face-fuck me a while. Worth the money, and after a hard day of hiking and swimming in Hawaii, the steamroom and sauna were great, too!"

I posted this on our Twitter feed but it's sweet enough to repeat:

Florida Tampa Bay: XTC Adult Bookstore, South 34th Street, Saint Petersburg. Bookstore with arcade. This updated added December, 2008: "Drenched a hot twink's face with my two-week load after making him strip naked. Left him on his knees with his face totally covered in my huge, messy wad. He was beggin' me to get him some paper towel but I didn't."

Here is your list of updated Sex Listings this week. Enjoy your weekend, gentlemen. See Milk if you get a chance.

Sex Listings...

US
Arizona Phoenix
California - Northern San Francisco, Watsonville
California - Southern Los Angeles, Orange County, Palm Springs, Riverside and San Bernardino Counties, San Diego
Colorado Denver
Connecticut Bridgeport, Milford
Florida Jacksonville, Orlando, Tampa Bay
Hawaii Honolulu
Illinois Chicago, Quincy
Indiana Gary
Kentucky Horse Cave, Lexington
Louisiana Alexandria, Lafayette
Maryland Baltimore
Massachusetts Boston
Michigan Detroit, Marshall
Minnesota Minneapolis
Missouri Columbia, Parshley, Sweet Springs
Montana Bozeman, Great Falls
Nevada Las Vegas
New Jersey Avenel, East Brunswick
New Mexico Santa Fe
New York Buffalo, Liberty, Long Island, Middletown, New York City
North Carolina Raleigh
Ohio Kent
Oregon Eugene, Portland
Pennsylvania Bethlehem, Columbia, Edgemont,Philadelphia, Pottstown, Williamsport
Rhode Island Johnston, Matunuck
South Carolina Durham, Greenville, Raleigh
Tennessee Pioneer
Texas - Eastern Austin, Bryan, Dallas, Houston, Tyler
Utah Midvale
Washington DC
West Virginia Huntington

ELSEWHERE
Australia Newcastle (New South Wales), Perth (Western Australia)
England Romford (Essex)
Japan Okinawa

Cruising For Escorts...

US
California AmeriFist (San Francisco), Andrew (San Diego)
Florida Brandon (Miami)
North Carolina BeefCakeMuscle (Charlotte)
Texas Alex (Austin), Brian (Dallas), more Brian, Dan (Dallas)
Utah Justin (Salt Lake City)
Washington Blake Hampton (Seattle)